tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post8986695161792364746..comments2008-04-15T20:07:37.628-05:00Susan Skitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13871921369901815459noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-1223594681409727552008-04-15T20:07:00.000-05:002008-04-15T20:07:00.000-05:00My children are grown and I thank God that they are both responsible independant adults. My daughter is having a terrible time with her 3 step sons. I think her husband is more of the enabler but anyway I would love to have the book for them. Please put my name in. Great interview. Thanks so much!dothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12301223597410227516noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-81558230000921444052008-04-13T14:35:00.000-05:002008-04-13T14:35:00.000-05:00This is a great topic for a book and discussion. I think it also goes to siblings who were trained by parents to enable one of the children too. I am helping a friend of mine whose sister manipulates her into helping her out of situations, and it is a hard thing to get out of without feeling guilty.<BR/>Only God can break these strongholds in our lives!<BR/>Our oldest is 18 and does not have issues like this. At a time when she went through some hard teen issues, we did let her feel the consequences of her actions and held her accountable for them. It took a lot of the Word and healing, but God is faithful. She is a different young woman today. Amen!<BR/>blessings~<BR/>JacqueJacquehttp://homeschoolblogger.com/JacqueDixonsoulrestesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-73725005182350275222008-04-12T18:41:00.000-05:002008-04-12T18:41:00.000-05:00It will be quite awhile until I have adult children, but I am always open to more wisdom!!!Irritable Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18049412644792482270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-64923874119902758662008-04-12T06:11:00.000-05:002008-04-12T06:11:00.000-05:00I agree with everyone, this is a much needed book. Now, if parents would only read and heed!<BR/><BR/>Susan, hope to see you next week at CWF!Pam Halterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13980301862494655691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-21517478812309798042008-04-10T20:22:00.000-05:002008-04-10T20:22:00.000-05:00wonderful interview.i am sure many would need that book.monsoon-dreamshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16925694847859867641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-52018656053040767942008-04-10T19:56:00.000-05:002008-04-10T19:56:00.000-05:00At first I thought this wasn't pertinent since I have younger children, but I got a lot out of that interview. Loved the definitions of helping and enabling. Never thought of it that way. I suppose it makes sense that I start these things today so kids and I don't find ourselves in this situation in the future. Great interview, but I will decline the generous offer as nice as it sounds so these well meaning parents with older kids can benefit.Angiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06509406606871767338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-87583973595585814642008-04-10T15:11:00.000-05:002008-04-10T15:11:00.000-05:00This is all sound advice having gone through trauma with an adult son of my own. Boundaries had to be set in the midst of feeling so bad about doing it.<BR/>When I told God to do whatever he had to do to bring my son back to himself I thought that God would be dealing with him - wrong it was me he dealt with.<BR/>Susan - please don't comment on this issue on my blog (E-mail instead) as my son reads it. We have a very good relationship now and I don't want to expose him on my blog.Barbarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05799594980600477320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-81440933077267054182008-04-10T14:08:00.000-05:002008-04-10T14:08:00.000-05:00Definitely a must read book not just for parents but for everyone.<BR/>Oprah needs to get hold of this book.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-88877564755669884332008-04-09T22:14:00.000-05:002008-04-09T22:14:00.000-05:00This was a great and informative interview...definitely seems like a book that has a great action plan...I will check this book out as we approach this new phase in parenting...<BR/><BR/>Thanks a lot Susan and God's peace to you,<BR/><BR/>Helenhelenw13http://helenw13.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-41099546504856696352008-04-09T22:06:00.000-05:002008-04-09T22:06:00.000-05:00Thisi s a topic sorely needing to be addressed in our day. May the Lord bless this book. Thanks for giving us this insight into it.Maxinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00040368808197747483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-6179768905933046902008-04-09T20:08:00.000-05:002008-04-09T20:08:00.000-05:00Hello, thank you for this post. I would love to read this book. I have been living for about 10 years or more with this very situation. My son started having problems in high school - we did everything we could to help him - we did manage to help him graduate from high school - at the time that was the most imporatant thing in my life - he could not - not graduate - wow that was the small stuff looking back. We have tried to detach - sometimes successful sometimes not - it was easier before he had two beautiful children - he is now 30 years old and his life is just a mess - his wife has her problems also - when there are little ones involved it is harded to detach - thank you for this post and for this book - I will look forward to purchasing it and reading. MDaughter of Anniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13859968630437168823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-79758670314800747332008-04-09T15:08:00.000-05:002008-04-09T15:08:00.000-05:00Wow-you know much of that boundary setting starts now in my home-when they are small-if you nip it then it seems to make it easier as they get older. Sounds very interesting!<BR/>Much love,<BR/>AngelaAngela @ Refresh My Soul Bloghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16830186483042851085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-8440291134963585522008-04-09T14:01:00.000-05:002008-04-09T14:01:00.000-05:00Susan,<BR/>Thank you for doing this interview! This sounds like a book I might need to get my hands on with a 20 and 18 year old in the house!<BR/><BR/>SueSue Cramerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-9871041300990383312008-04-09T11:01:00.000-05:002008-04-09T11:01:00.000-05:00I don't have adult children YET, but I can look back and see a pattern of what my dad did for me and how it enabled me. I am almost 36 and I am finally learning to 'manage' my life - God had to do a lot of molding in my case (and He's still at it)! Thanks for the interview!Lorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06725164630770954997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-33152026624786907572008-04-09T09:30:00.000-05:002008-04-09T09:30:00.000-05:00Yes, Karen, by all means! If you are picked out of the "hat" (my last book give-away I had my six-year-old pick a name out of a plastic bowl -hee, hee, hee), I will find a way to send the book to New Zealand :) Have a great day my friend!Susan Kelly Skitthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13871921369901815459noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-52570751992269164612008-04-09T06:33:00.000-05:002008-04-09T06:33:00.000-05:00This sounds like a great book. I fortunatly learned from my mistakes with my first child and am now much tougher on the other two. It is very hard to sit quietly and watch your children fail at one thing or another but in the long run it is the right thing to do. I think the biggest error that parents make is not allowing their children to fail. Children grow up thinking that life owes them something and that if they start to fail, someone will always bail them out. Because of this, they don't think their actions through. Great interview.Greg Chttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01925817439493420666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-50415953583690038092008-04-09T05:58:00.000-05:002008-04-09T05:58:00.000-05:00This is a very needed book. Please put my name in for the give-away copy.<BR/>SusanPenless Thoughtshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11360047123820906113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026912390988543880.post-15413911246420942132008-04-09T01:21:00.000-05:002008-04-09T01:21:00.000-05:00Oh could I possibly be take part...being as I'm in New Zealand and all?Karenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07375557556508701793noreply@blogger.com